As we come to a close on The Dating Project, I thought it would be a good idea to talk about what we’ve learned through this blog! Many thoughts and opinions have been shared and there are many more that I wish I could have talked about. With that being said, let’s talk about how we’ve grown.
At the beginning of this blog, I believed that the school’s biggest issues with dating involved the ratio of guys to girls, the size of the school, and frankly, the schooling backgrounds that people were coming from. Granted, my mind hasn’t changed much, but I feel like there’s more to it. The dating culture at The King’s College is way harder to understand than I originally thought.
There are clearly issues, most of which I still believe stem from the size of the school. I feel this way because honestly, gossip culture RUNS the school. It’s difficult to want to pursue a relationship with someone when you don’t have the space to breathe or figure out if it is even what both of you are wanting in a relationship. I’ve seen many people get into relationships at King’s because there is all of this outside pressure feeding lies into their heads that if they don’t start dating right away, then it will never happen. I also believe this has held back some relationships from having the ability to flourish, because the two people have felt suffocated.
But, if you are able to separate yourself from the gossip, from hookup culture, and work really hard to be fully transparent and communicate; I believe we would begin to see more relationships come out of King’s. Relationships like Patterson and Erin, Ian and Jaclynn, Kobe and Catie, and all of the other relationships that have helped set a healthy example of how dating at King’s can look. Obviously, there are many different types of relationships and honestly, you may not find someone at King’s.
So, I’ll leave you with this: dating at King’s doesn’t have to be difficult, but you HAVE TO be willing to try. If you are open to going on dates with the intention of getting to know someone better and you are upfront and honest about what you want in a partner (ie., morals, boundaries, goals, dreams, intentions for the future), I believe you’ll have better success, or at least you’ll learn along the way. But, if you keep wondering what is wrong with everyone else that you are going on dates with, maybe check yourself and see if you’re the problem. But hey, I’ve been wrong before!!
I bid you all adieu and I hope to hear more of the wacky dating stories that have come from King’s. Thank you for going on this journey with me.